Years ago before I became an Image Consultant, I worked in an office setting with a woman who wore little to no makeup and dressed very simple. I know this may sound like she looked somewhat dull, but, that was not the case at all. She always looked great, put together and gave off great energy. One day she told me that she was going on a date after many years of being single and out of the dating scene. I immediately went into high gear rhyming off ideas on what she should wear, including makeup.
To my surprise she ended up going on the date wearing little to no makeup and her typical outfit. When I asked her why she didn’t dress up a bit more, her response was “That’s just not me. I wanted him to see me and who I am”. They married one year later, are still happily married and have two beautiful children.
It turns out that my workmate knew who she was, knew how to project her best and most authentic self through her appearance choices and made it a priority for her appearance to be an authentic display of her true self. Now that I’m an Image Consultant and look back at this event, I realize that I was projecting the image vision I wanted for myself onto her.
If you are dating with the intention of attracting a long term unconditionally loving partner, you should be your most authentic self on dates (including your appearance choices). This will help to ensure you are attracting someone who is seeking the real you, who is in alignment with who you are and what you want.
Here are 4 key questions to review to prevent yourself from wearing a disguise on a date.
1. As soon as you put on your ‘date outfit’ do you immediately reach a feeling of excitement and happiness? This is a sure sign that you are on track to being in touch with your core and most authentic self. If you are instinctively questioning the outfit, then something is more than likely ‘off’.
2. Do you feel authentic in your ‘date outfit’? This is key. Examine the way you feel in the outfit after wearing if for a few minutes. Some positive examples may be – comfortable, vibrant, balanced, at ease. You don’t want to feel like you are in a costume.
This is very different from step #1 above. You want both of the responses for step #1 and #2 to be positive. You can feel excitement/happiness in a Halloween costume, but, the costume is not you. It is a costume.
3. Are the colours you are wearing in your colour palette? This includes colours in your outfit, hair and makeup. When you are wearing YOUR colours you give off a more confident, vibrant, younger and balanced energy. If you are not wearing your colour palette, you are actually vibrating at a lower energy frequency.
4. Does your outfit maximize your body type, lifestyle and personality?
To optimize your appearance and really attract people and situations that are in alignment with who you are and what you want, it is key to be you and display you.
A reminder from a friend – costumes are for Halloween.
I hope this article inspires you to wear your authenticity!
Image Consultant and Hair Professional